Screw you

So, normally I do not do this type of thing.  I do not approve of the sharing of relationship issues on the internet, as it creates awkwardness for everyone.  But in this case, yeah, I don't think many fully realize the depth of this individual's douchery, and I firmly believe that it must be recognized. Yes, this is highly biased.  But I really, really can't stand that douche.

To begin:  After dating for over a year and a half, he breaks up with me over text message, while I am in Michigan, two hours before I have a performance.  This is not to mention all of the upsetting things he did while we were together, (accusing me of being anorexic, telling me that we probably would not stay together through college the night my grandfather died, etc.,) but this is when the major grievances began.  And, by the by, if anyone wants proof, I have all texts and instant messages saved.  I'd just rather not go through all of those if no one is trying to question it.

Next:  I want to be friends.  I text him, non-aggressively, and he says that he does not want to be friends.  I make him too uncomfortable.  I ask if we can meet somewhere, because I do want to remain on a friendly basis.  He says no.  Contact ceases for a while at this point.

With our State One-Act Play competition coming up, I text him and ask him if he is planning to be there.  He says yes.  I say that makes me really uncomfortable, as it will be the first time I will have seen him since the breakup.  I am afraid that knowing he is there, and being in such an anxiety-producing situation anyway, I could  easily mess up while onstage.  He says that he will not be there, so I shouldn't worry.  He shows up anyway.  I spend the entire day of the competition crying in my mom's car.  I do send him aggressive text messages, and he becomes very defensive, saying that it isn't my place to forbid him from coming, and he has every right to be there.  I say yes, you do have the right to be there, I just asked if you were going to be there or not and expressed my concerns.  You were the one to say you wouldn't be there, and all I wanted was to know in advance.  You lied to my face, and while we were together the one thing you promised was that you would never lie to me.  I ask him to apologize.  He refuses, saying that he did nothing wrong and that lots of people have been telling him to "insult you like hell".  Everyone in his grade, many of whom I considered to be friends, thinks I told him he could not come to states, and hates me for it.  I recieve many aggressive messages.

A few months later, the night I finally make my college decision, he sends me a message saying he has a new girlfriend, and wanted to give me the "dignity of knowing first".  I tell him that he has awful timing, as this is the second major event of the year he has ruined for me.  He immediately becomes defensive, and says many rude things.

Recently, I texted him to ask him if he was going to come to drama awards or the cappies gala.  He says he is coming to the gala.  I ask why, and he says it's a secret.  I immediately try to find a way to not go; with the history of what happened at states, and my emotional state, I do not want to see him.  Especially in a situation of such  personal importance, which he could completely destroy for me.  I get two cappie nominations, and am devastated, as it means that I do have to go to the gala.

That's pretty much where I am now; desperate not to go to the gala, even though it's something I've looked forward to all year, due to the possibility that I could run into him.  And I would not be able to cope with that too well.  I'm not completely stupid, I know that I've said things that are emotionally charged and combative too, but I feel that some of his responses are entirely inappropriate.  I have texted him several times, and this time I actually have asked him not to come, unlike at states.  I have told him that this is a really important thing for me, and that he had his moment last year when he was nominated, and I would like to be able to enjoy something I've worked for so hard, instead of spending the whole night terrified.  He has not responded, but he frequently ignores me, so that's expected.

I decided to write this tonight because he unfriended me on facebook, and because everyone is posting pictures of their happy relationships on facebook.  Which is absolutely fine, it just makes me upset.  When he broke up with me, I didn't just lose my boyfriend, I lost my absolute best friend.  We talked for hours every night, and he really was the person I trusted the most in the world, which is why it hurt me so much that he would have so little respect for me as to come to states and assume I would just never find out.  That he lied, and would do so unabashedly, was what upset me so much- and that he didn't even have the respect to face me is what still upsets me now.

So, that's the story so far.  I know, I know, it's incredibly immature to post relationship things on the internet and whatnot, but I guess this means that I'm incredibly immature.  Plus I'm sick of people listening to his side of the story, which I assume calls me a psycho stalker and leaves it at that.  I am just very angry.  And he'll probably never see this anyway, as I am unfriended and studiously ignored, and anyone who knows us probably has the gist of this already.

I just feel like I should warn his new girlfriend, because, even not knowing who she is, I am sure she deserves better.